It’s the truth. You will start to attract people to the same vibration you are giving out in the world. But what happens when that vibration starts to change. Slowly you have less and less in common with those around you. Who used to be your best friends and you would stay up partying all night or doing whatever it was that made you happy just no longer cuts it anymore.

We’ve been there before. We know how it feels. Luckily we found the others. Not others who were exactly like us, but others who were open minded, who were going through some changes in their life and who wanted to connect. It seems because you are here you may feel similar. Maybe you feel like the outcast in your group or family or maybe everything is great and you are just looking for more?

Do you feel left out or like something is missing in your life?

You’re not alone. Well not anymore!


According to a 2018 survey from The Economist and the Kaiser Family Foundation (KFF), more than two in ten adults in the United States (22%) and the United Kingdom (23%) say they always or often feel lonely, lack companionship, or feel left out or isolated.

 A recent Cigna survey revealed that nearly half of Americans always or sometimes feel alone (46%) or left out (47%). Fully 54% said they always or sometimes feel that no one knows them well.

Did you know that recent research suggest that Loneliness and social isolation can be as damaging to health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day?!?!

What the science says:

  • As a force in shaping our health, medical care pales in comparison with the circumstances of the communities in which we live. Few aspects of community are more powerful than is the degree of connectedness and social support for individuals.
  • Living alone, being unmarried (single, divorced, widowed), no participation in social groups, fewer friends, and strained relationships are not only all risk factors for premature mortality but also increase risk for loneliness

This is just the tip of the iceberg. 

As demonstrated by a review of the effects of perceived social isolation across the life span, co-authored by Hawkley, loneliness can wreak havoc on an individual’s physical, mental and cognitive health (Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B, Vol. 370, No. 1669, 2015). 

Hawkley points to evidence linking perceived social isolation with adverse health consequences including depression, poor sleep quality, impaired executive function, accelerated cognitive decline, poor cardiovascular function and impaired immunity at every stage of life. 

In addition, a 2019 study led by Kassandra Alcaraz, PhD, MPH, a public health researcher with the American Cancer Society, analyzed data from more than 580,000 adults and found that social isolation increases the risk of premature death from every cause for every race (American Journal of Epidemiology, Vol. 188, No. 1, 2019).


Have you Heard of the “Blue Zones”? The term refers to geographic areas in which people have low rates of chronic disease and live longer than anywhere else

They have identified 9 key factors that contribute to the phenomenon and one of the most important is a strong sense of Community and Quality relationships

These relationships work in a virtuous cycle of happiness and health: spending quality time with others is not just enjoyable in the moment but it contributes to your overall health and that of your circle, too!

At elemental we have seen the impact of being part of a community first hand, and how it has impacted our lives on an individual and community level.